Overcome Shyness with These 5 Methods!

Start with People You Know

Practice social behaviors like eye contact, body language, introducing yourself, small talk, asking questions, and inviting others with people you feel comfortable around. Smile to build your confidence this way. Once you feel comfortable, do the same with new friends and strangers.

Have a Few Sentences Ready to Start a Conversation

Often, the hardest part of talking to someone new is starting. Think about conversation openers, like introducing yourself ("Hi, I'm Ali, we're in the same class"), giving a compliment ("That jacket looks great on you"), or asking a question ("Do you know how I can do that?"). Being prepared with specific sentences for a new conversation makes it easier to approach others.

Practice What to Say

When you're ready, try something you've avoided due to shyness, like making a phone call or having a conversation; write down what you want to say beforehand. Practice it out loud, maybe even talking in front of a mirror could help you.

Afterward, just start the conversation you've practiced. Don't worry if it doesn't go exactly as rehearsed or if you can't say it perfectly. Keep your confidence. Be proud of yourself for starting and trying. Next time, it will be even better because starting a conversation will be easier.

Give Yourself Time

Find group activities where you can be with people who share your interests. Give yourself a chance to socialize with these new people and gradually get to know them. Shy people often worry about failing or being judged by others. Such worries and feelings can hold you back from trying.

Don't constantly criticize yourself, and don't fear criticism from others; instead of expecting failure, encourage yourself.

Be Assertive

Since shy people can be overly concerned about others' reactions, they don't want to step out of their comfort zone. This doesn't mean they are cowardly. But it might mean they assert themselves less often.

Being assertive means speaking up for yourself when necessary, asking for what you want or need. Be assertive, gradually express your needs, and set aside fear.

Above all, be yourself. It's okay to try different conversation methods. But say and do what suits your style. Being genuine and daring to start a conversation is what brings real friends to your side.